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How open do you choose to be about your health? We’ve discussed this issue of communication previously, but I think it’s one of those factors we deal with often, therefore it’s worth repeating. One of our faithful blog participants, Marcia, brought up the question of dealing with overly friendly visitors who may outstay their welcome when they come to call. What do you do if you don’t feel up to sitting there and chatting with a well-meaning friend or neighbor?
I’m certain there are as many answers to that question as there are individuals who face the situation. For me, it isn’t a problem too often because most of my friends are back in California. When we moved here I already had assumed a semi-active lifestyle. Any friends and new relatives I acquired after moving here knew up front what my problems were. Occasionally we have visitors from out of town and that I can usually get through for an evening or a brief visit. Quite frankly, I don’t think I’m as polite as some people. I think I acquired the direct approach to life as a nurse manager, although I’m sure my family would choke on that statement and say I have always been a bit, shall we say, blunt. I try to wrap my remarks in a layer of softness and diplomacy but don’t always succeed. For me, the answer to the above question would be to “tell it like it is” and something to the effect of, “Gee, I’m so sorry but I really have to get off my backside now because I’m not feeling well. Thanks so much for dropping by.” Then I would stand up and hope they would do the same.
Have you ever heard that old joke that goes something like this: The bored husband says, “Goodnight folks. We need to go to bed now so you people can go home.”
I find it interesting how we all have to make the adjustment to the many changes in our lives which are thrust upon us. Our health is altered or in some cases simply goes to blazes. These alterations take many forms. Some of us are simply in too much pain to sit there and behave in a civilized manner. Depression can be severe, therefore we don’t feel social or pleasant. I don’t think we need to apologize for feeling lousy. It is what it is. We sometimes think the only way others can relate to us is if they have suffered pain; they have a relative who suffers or they can remember the last time they were acutely ill. I have found there are, however, some individuals who are naturally understanding and compassionate. You’ll never know what kind of individual you are dealing with, however, if you don’t communicate with them. Occasionally, opening up to another person takes you to a deeper level of communication. You may be in for a surprise at the amount of compassion another human heart can hold.
Sometimes, we’re afraid to open up our lives to others for fear of judgment or comparisons from them. Who among us has not heard, “You don’t look sick,” or “Just shake it off, you’re not as sick as so and so.” For some of us, it’s difficult to thrust our feelings onto family because, at least for me, it feels like I am asking them to shoulder a part of my load. That’s something I don’t like to do but sometimes…communication and explanation is necessary or you will come across looking like an antisocial witch. Looking back on the last twenty years of my life I am often shocked to realize how much has changed. I am in awe as to how kind and accommodating my husband and family have been. It’s not only my life that has changed. These major lifestyle changes affect everyone who loves us and can serve as an inconvenience to friends and acquaintances.
There are times I have to sit myself down and get everything in perspective. You can’t take on the whole world nor can you be responsible for how others respond to you. You just have to take care of you and look after your family the best way you can. Sometimes that’s a big enough order for one person to fill.
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