How to overcome fear
The decision to cope with their fears is quite commendable. Only this can allow a person to go ahead and win, despite the circumstances. The mechanism of fear formation is such that as soon as you give in to one of them and start to avoid everything that is connected with it, the rest also begin to feel at ease.
So fears and multiply. But it is worthwhile to start fighting even the simplest and innocuous of them, as a mechanism is born in your head that you can apply to any other fear. It turns out that the most important thing here is to acquire a skill that can then be applied to any phobias. You can start with the smallest and simplest fears, so it's even better than immediately threatening the “lump”.
Realize a certain thing, like what you fear. Identify fear. This is the first thing to do. For example, you fear public speaking, but always tell yourself that "you have nothing to say to these people" or "this audience is unworthy of my great thoughts."Behind these excuses may well be hiding fear. Ask yourself, are you possibly afraid to do this?
Sometimes it happens that you feel fear, but you cannot understand exactly what you are afraid of. Write down everything that seems uncomfortable or horrible, until you understand what the main reason is.
Once it became clear what the root of fear is, act contrary to it. This is the second step. Fear deprives of strength, but you have more of them, because you have admitted to yourself that it existed!
Third, think about the worst thing that can happen if you do what you fear. In most cases, it turns out that nothing terrible, in fact, can happen. But if some consequences seem to you really dangerous, take care to minimize their probability in advance. Sometimes it is useful to imagine yourself looking at this problem after 20-30 years. Does it seem too shallow?
And if the possible consequences are really such that they can seriously impair your life, then maybe it is not worth fighting with this fear? Perhaps this self-preservation instinct suggests you not to dance on the edge of the abyss?
The fourth step is to make a firm decision to act. Fear has not gone away, but noticed how he cringe? Now somewhere in the dark corner of your thoughts there is a small lump of substance with high density hiding. He is waiting for only one thing - no, not failure! He expects you to refuse the decision. Even a bad result will help to cope with fear.
The fifth step is to act. Put yourself in a difficult (but not too) situation that you can handle.
It may be that the first time you did not succeed. Then do not reproach yourself, but try again. Happened? Hooray! You won.