How to stop sinning
General concept of sin
The word “sin” in the Russian language could initially be interpreted as a “mistake”, as evidenced by such single-rooted words as “flaw”, “error”. By the way, in other languages this word had a similar meaning. In Greek, this concept was designated by the word ἁμάρτημα (ρμαρτία), which most accurately translates as “slip, fault”, and the Jews denoted an unintentional transgression by the word “hat”, which can also be translated as “slip”.
In modern society, if not to take into account the religious aspect, the concept of "sin" is perceived as a violation of the laws of public morality, as well as state laws. Thus, a person who abides by the laws of society, does not commit crimes under the criminal code, does not violate secular moral and ethical standards, no longer sin.
The situation with the religious concept of sin is somewhat more complicated, because each religion interprets the concept of sin in its own way.
Consciousness of sinfulness
Nevertheless, people often feel sinful, worry about living incorrectly, acting unfairly towards others. Living with such thoughts is not easy.But the truth is that no one can be absolutely good or hopelessly bad.
If the consciousness of one’s own imperfections torments one, one can try to solve this problem by working with an inner sense of guilt, as well as developing one’s own empathy. Having ceased to feel guilty about what a person is actually not guilty of, it will become easier for him to accept himself and to believe that he is not so bad, to make his own life more joyful. A developed empathy, i.e. the ability to feel the emotions and feelings of others, the ability to put oneself in the place of another, to understand what he feels when he is treated in one way or another, will help to treat his neighbor more carefully and not hurt him with his actions, which means to become objective, t. e. stop sinning
Get rid of guilt feelings
Sometimes the feeling of guilt is mistakenly confused with conscience, when a person worries about unseemly deeds committed by him and seeks to correct them. But the feeling of guilt is something else. This is a sense of self-responsibility for what a person cannot, in principle, be responsible for.
Working with guilt is necessary, and usually the process is lengthy.Sometimes you can not do without the help of a specialist psychologist. You can start it with the realization of the following important principles.
1. Everyone is not like others, and has the right to live as his conscience, reason, common sense, religious beliefs, intuition tells him. It is impossible to please everyone, it is impossible to become good for everyone. Of course, reasonable compromises with others are the best way out of possible conflict situations, but concessions must be mutual and not harm the individual.
2. You should not be allowed to blame you for what you cannot be responsible for: in bad weather and tense international situation, that the child brought the next two, the pensioner mom has sore joints, and the boss has a bad mood. If you feel that the interlocutor is trying to do just that, it is better to just get away from the communication, and transfer the important issues to later.
3. You are not responsible for the consequences of your actions, which you could not assume. So, your fault is not that you gave your mom a travel ticket, and she, on this trip, broke her leg.
4. You are not to blame for the fact that you live richer, more comfortable or happier than your relative, friend or colleague (unless, of course, you have achieved this at his expense).If you still feel guilty about this, do something useful for others, without demanding gratitude from them: break a flower bed in front of the house, help a neighbor load things for moving to the country house.
Guilt is a destructive state that can lead a person to the consciousness of their own inferiority, so you need to start working with him as soon as possible.
The ability to empathize with another, to understand what kind of emotions and feelings he feels helps to understand the nature of these feelings, which means that if there is such an opportunity, try to make sure that people, when communicating with you, at least do not experience negative emotions. Isn't this what is called “love of neighbor” in Christianity?
All mentally healthy people and even some animals are capable of empathy, but there is no limit to perfection, and this ability can be developed for the benefit of oneself and others.
1. To begin with, learn to clearly define what a person is experiencing at a particular point in time. Notice changes in facial expressions, voice timbre, gestures, body position.
2. Try to get used to his physical condition and feel the same as he.Copy all the peculiarities of changes in his appearance noticed by you at the moment of residence of some kind of emotion and try to feel the same as he does.
3. Having tuned in this way to the interlocutor's emotions, you can try to bring him out of the negative emotional state, however, this requires special skills.
For ordinary life, it will be good to master the first two levels of empathy, and then there will be much more chances to start living and acting in harmony with others and with yourself. And this is the main condition in order not to feel like a sinner.